Comments on: It’s Okay Not to Love Your Newborn

By: v

Tue, 25 Aug 2009 13:38:39 +0000

For posterity’s sake, I wanted to point out some things (in case people find this and read it much later). Nobody has said anything about postpartum depression which can explain some of the issues. Women who give birth have just had a pretty traumatic experience and with the healing, the fatigue, the pain, the drugs, the chaos, the hormones, it’s not unreasonable to think that deep emotional bonds are slow to manifest instantaneously. I like the comments that say “Don’t feel obligated to feel guilty.” because it’s true and being a mom is something you get better at (like any job or new skill you acquire) and nobody should expect you to be perfect.

By: kristie

kristie — Thu, 23 Jul 2009 21:46:20 +0000

Thank you all so much for your thoughts. I am a first time mom and my daughter is now 3 weeks old. I don’t know if that “love” is there and I am having a hard time letting go of the plans that I had for my life before we found out that we were going to have a baby. It is good to know that i am not a bad mom for not haing a stron bond with her yet. I hope it will come soon. thanks again.

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By: MD

MD — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 18:36:34 +0000

@Amanda. Thank Amanda for your comments. I so needed to hear them. I have a two week at home and am really struggling with this whole mommy business. I keep wondering if I’ve made a terrible mistake – not that her life is a mistake but…oh, I don’t know how to explain it. It’s tough and I hope it gets better soon. Thank you again for your post and the hope that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

By: The Mom Crowd » When Do You Feel Normal Again After Having a Baby?

The Mom Crowd » When Do You Feel Normal Again After Having a Baby? — Wed, 27 May 2009 04:13:17 +0000

[...] recently commented on an older post of mine titled, “Its Okay Not to Love Your Newborn.” She wrote: I too am struggling with my feelings toward my daughter. She is almost 3 weeks old and I [...]