Playing Along With San Diego Momma: The Worst and Best Decisions of My Life
Over at San Diego Momma’s blog she has a post running where the people in the comments leave a blog prompt for the Commenter before them. Got it? You can check out the original post about it here and a clarifying post about it here. San Diego Momma is one of the coolest bloggers ever. She met me on a blind blogger date when I happened to be in San Diego. She even let me interview her when I didn’t know what I was doing. You can check out the video of our interview here. So enough gushing about San Diego Momma and on to the prompt.
Jessica at BernThis.com gave me this prompt: Tell us the worst decision you think you’ve made in your life and why and if you need more to write about, tell us the best decision you made and why.
The Worst Decision
I really don’t believe in regrets, so the first question is kind of hard for me. In 29 years of living I have thankfully not have had to deal with a lot of bad decisions. The first one that comes to mind is that I feel like I wasted 2 years of my awesome time in college dating this one guy. He struggled with homosexuality and didn’t want to live that lifestyle. So I felt like I could fix him. At least if he had a girlfriend, then people wouldn’t think he was gay. Nosy college students would ask me anyway. Thankfully I didn’t go as far as Mary in the movie ‘Saved!’ In fact, we never kissed, because we were going to save our first kiss for our wedding. We were pretty close to getting engaged, but we ultimately broke up because I feel like I woke up and saw that we weren’t a good match. He just wasn’t paying any attention to me. I had to beg him to meet me for dinner, so I could break up with him. I feel like some of that time was wasted.
Kelly Willis sings a song called ‘Find Another Fool.’ I often think of him when I hear the song. The first 2 verses read like this:
Now we’re down to saying our goodbyes
And you still don’t see the truth
All I did was try to make life better for you
But a woman just gets tired of being used
So find another fool to love you
The world is full of girls like me
Find a fool to take care of you
That’s a girl I’d like to see
Who’ll be the one when all is said and done
I know you
You’ll find another fool
I sort of did feel like a fool when it was all said and done. Many friends and family came up to me and said that they were glad that we broke up afterwords. I then wondered – why didn’t they tell me sooner!
About a year or two later I met my husband and was glad that I met him at the end of college, because we decided to get married after we graduated. I don’t know if I could have been engaged for more than 6 months!
The Best Decision
The best decision I feel like I have ever made was moving to San Antonio in 1998 to attend the University of Texas at San Antonio. Moving away from my family and starting a new life all on my own is one of my proudest moments in life. I didn’t know a single person when I moved to a completely new city. I quickly found friends and a job. Since graduating college I have married, had a good paying job in my major, and now do what I love as a Stay At Home Mom.
I feel like since I have moved once on my own that I can do it again (now with a family), but there isn’t any rush. I seriously love my town and those that have become my family and friends here.
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Thanks, Jessica, for the prompt. Sorry I can’t come up with anything juicier for ya in the worst decision department. I can’t wait to read your post on a smell that takes you back or reminds you of something from Melanie at A Dramatic Mommy!
So what are the best and worst decisions of your life?
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I’m so glad you came to San Antonio too!
You were so amazing to me after my long-term relationship ended…and this is the song that reminds me of that guy:
Wrong Again by Martina McBride
From the day we met
You made me forget
All my fears
Knew just what to say
And you kissed away
All my tears
I knew this time I had finally found
Someone to build my life around
Be a lover and a friend
After all my heart had put me through
I knew that it was safe with you
And what we had would never end
Wrong again
Everybody swore
They’d seen this before
We’d be fine
And you’d come to see that you still loved me
In good time
And they said there’s nothing you can do
Its something that he’s going through
It happens to a lot of men
And I told myself that they were right
That you’d wake up and see the light
And I just had to wait til then
Wrong again
And it seemed to me the pain would last
My chance for happiness had passed
And nothing waited round the bend
I was sure I’d never find someone
To heal the damage you had done
And my poor heart would never mend
Wrong again
Wrong again
I’ll have to think about the best/worst thing…
Have a happy day!
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My worst decision involved staying in a bad relationship, as well. When you look back at it, it seems so plain and clear. However, when I was in the middle of that relationship, I couldn’t see the forest for the trees and I felt very stupid after the fact.
Best decision was to take a chance on the relationship that I’m in now (and have been in for 20 years). Even after being so crushed, I went on to find happiness and self confidence. It sure can and does get better!
I love reading these tidbits about you! Gives me more insight into one of my favey online bloggeristas.
And I LOVE that Kelly Willis song (because of you)…you put it on the mix you gave me last year and I adore that whole CD.
I’m glad you played along…I’ve missed you and have stunk at keeping in touch these last few months.
This was a really honest post and I’m also glad you moved on from the wrong guy and onto your husband and beautiful family.
Ditto. I was in the wrong relationship. I was happy to ready that University ended on such a high note. Thanks for sharing.
Great job – I could tell you all about my worst decision… but then I’d have to kill you.
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Looking back, I made lots of little bad decisions. But they all led me to my best- marrying my husband, waiting a little while to have kids, finding myself and my wonderful career.
I am so blessed!